I’m not adulting today.
Wouldn’t it be nice if sometimes we didn’t have to make the hard decisions in life ourselves.
I saw a sign in a shop recently that read:
I don’t want to adult today.
Wouldn’t it be nice if sometimes someone else could do the “adulting” for us.
Unfortunately, I haven’t figured out how to make this happen and I am guessing neither have you. So whether we like it or not, we have to pull up our big girl panties and make the decisions we don’t always like making. And I am not talking about what we have for dinner tonight – I am talking about the life changing decisions….
- Do you quit your job?
- Do you start a business doing what you love?
- Do you have another child?
- Do you stay or do you go?
The way we make decisions vary for each of us. Sometimes the decision we make is to actually run from the problem hoping that if we just change course it will go away and we won’t actually have to face the problem head on. Sometimes this works, often it doesn’t. How often have you made a decision hoping that the outcome would be better – how often has it turned out to be so?
Making decisions are hard. Absolutely. There is no right way or wrong way. Personally, I am a huge advocate for a pros and cons list. Other’s will make decisions based on what comes to mind first when posed with the dilemma. How you make the decision doesn’t really matter. It is the actual making of the decision that does; and unfortunately it is a decision that only you can make.
No-one can tell you what to do.
What is important however is making sure you have a support network around you who you can turn to when times get tough. People who can call you out on your decisions, who can question you. People who can help you dig deep to find out what you are leaning towards one decision over and other and investigate all of the options so that when you make a decision you are doing so fully prepared and aware of the consequences.
Do you have this?